A placemat guide for holiday discussions on Trump, racism and justice with loved ones.
Tips for talking to families:
-- Listen mindfully before formulating a thoughtful response
-- Ask questions when people express strong opinions
-- Affirm. Clarify the difference between good intentions and the impact
-- Speak from a place of mutual interest, sharing personal experiences, vulnerability & emotions
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Tips for talking to families:
- Listen mindfully before formulating a thoughtful response
- Ask questions when people express strong opinions
- Affirm: clarify the difference between the good intentions and the impact
- Speak from a place of mutual interest, sharing personal experiences and emotions
"He's a good businessman."
- Response: Trump has refused to pay many workers and contractors, including dishwashers, waiters, and bartenders at his resorts, a glass company, a carpet company, and several law firms. He won't make his tax returns public so we have no way of knowing whether he pays his taxes at all. His businesses have a history of going bankrupt.
- Questions: Have you or anyone you know ever not been paid for work that you've done? Or been stiffed on wages? How did it make you feel? What was the impact on your life?
"Trump opposes NAFTA that killed jobs/he'll protect jobs and manufacturing at home."
- Response: Trump himself sends jobs overseas with many Trump brand products manufactured in China, Japan, Honduras, Brazil, Norway, Germany, and Italy. Trump hires union busting companies in his hotels and has not treated workers well including cases of unpaid wages.
- Questions: Have you encountered someone who says one thing and does another? What was that like?
"Trump will be tough on terrorism and Muslims."
- Response: Trump has threatened to bar people from our country purely based on religion. He has proposed watching people at their places of worship. There were 23 hate crimes against Muslims in the week after Trump proposed banning them from entering the U.S. Attacks on mosques also increased, as well as other Trump-inspired hate crimes on immigrants in Boston, Chicago, and Wichita.
- Questions: Has there ever been a time that you or a loved one has been unfairly targeted because of your beliefs or identity? Have you ever been afraid for your family's safety? What was the impact?
"He'll build a wall to keep out immigrants and keep us safe."
- Response: Immigrant workers in the US pay income and sales taxes as well as creating jobs through small businesses. States with the largest immigrant communities were found to have the lowest crime rates. Trump repeatedly demeans immigrants and their descendants including saying that an American-born judge couldn't be impartial on the bench because of his Mexican heritage.
- Questions: Has there ever been a time that you or a loved one has been unfairly targeted because of your identity or cultural heritage? What was the impact? How did it make you feel?
"Trump is funding his own campaign/he is free to speak his mind"
- Response: Trump has actually taken millions in campaign contributions and is relying on more to keep his campaign moving forward. He has spent millions of campaign dollars paying his own companies -- for press conference sites, airfare, and much more. Trump is a billionaire and he doesn't listen to anyone either, least of all the American people. If he doesn't have to listen to business or other political people, he doesn't have to listen to regular folks. Rich people elected to office rarely keep their promises.
- Questions: Has there ever been an elected official that you felt was accountable to you? What did it take to make them accountable?